Do you think your world would change if your perception changes?

Today I came across a quote from Enric Corbera, creator of Bioneuroemotion, that made me reflect: “Changing your perception is the first step to transforming the world we share.”

I don't know how you relate to your external or internal world. But I do know, from my own experience, that there are many moments when we wish things were different. Situations that creates discomfort. Or even pain and suffering. This simple phrase has reminded me of the importance of how we perceive our reality.

One of the things I have learnt, and something I continue to work on daily, is choosing how I respond to things that happen, instead of reacting instinctively. For example, when my daughters keep fighting and won't let me concentrate on something I'm doing, I can choose to react with yelling and frustration (which doesn't usually generate a positive response); or I can choose to take a deep breath and, with kindness, show interest in what's happening, try to understand it, and, as a team, find a solution. If I choose the first option, I hurt myself and set an example that isn't the one I want. If I choose the second, I maintain my inner peace and calm, and I set a healthier example, in my opinion.

When I respond instead of react, I choose to observe what's happening with compassion and curiosity, as well as respect. I choose to try to better understand my daughters and connect with them in a respectful and healthy way. As I've mentioned, this is something I'm still working on, and it doesn't always work out.

Do you live in a benevolent world or in a hostile world?

Returning to Enric Corbera's quote: it reminds us that the external world reflects our internal world. Which also makes me reflect on something I often hear Mario Alonso Puig emphasize: there's a big difference between perceiving that we live in a benevolent world or a hostile one.

If we believe we live in a hostile world, this will be reflected in our reality. Both ideas coincide on one point: what we believe and how we perceive transforms what we experience.

We don't see life as it is, but as we are. Our history, our emotions, and our beliefs act as an invisible filter when it comes to perception. Therefore, two people can live through the same situation and have completely different experiences. Not because the facts change, but because the way they interpret them changes.

Observing life from another perspective

When we look at life from a different perspective, we open the door to new possibilities. What yesterday seemed like an obstacle, today we can see as an opportunity for growth. What was once a burden can be transformed into a learning experience.

If we feel the world is hostile, we act fearfully, defensively, and distrustfully. Everything seems threatening. On the other hand, if we perceive the world as benevolent, we relax: we are more open, we trust, and we see opportunities. And this openness also changes how we relate to others and how others respond to us.

What influences how we perceive?

Our thoughts, emotions, and beliefs directly influence how we interpret our surroundings. If we live internally in a state of scarcity, fear, or disconnection, we tend to see the same external effects. When we cultivate calm, gratitude, and trust, the external world reflects these qualities back.

Changing our perspective doesn't mean denying difficulty, but rather consciously choosing how we interpret it. And, as Borja Vilaseca says in his book Being Happy Is Easy , it's healthy daily practices that lead us to cultivate a peaceful and harmonious inner world — which, for me, is synonymous with happiness. Some of the ones I practice are:

• Practice gratitude

• Conscious pauses such as short meditations or short breaks to breathe

• Do exercise

• Nature walks and yoga to connect

• Eat healthy foods

• Observe my thoughts, and question them

• Infusions that help me regulate my nervous system, etc.

  
  

Change doesn't begin with great external revolutions. Nor does it come from the outside. Change begins with small adjustments in the way we look at things . And, fortunately, that's something we can change ourselves.

When we change our perception, we transform not only our internal world, but also the world we share with others.

We can't always control what happens to us, but we can choose how we respond. When we change our perception, we change our reality. And in doing so, we also transform the world we share.

Thanks for reading 💜

Laia